Brett Favre crying during his farewell press conference. | Photo: Milwaukee Journal Sentinel

Brett Favre crying during his farewell press conference. | Photo: Milwaukee Journal Sentinel

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Favre: Real Men Can Cry

By Dan O'Donnell and Jay Sorgi

Click here to listen to Newsradio 620 WTMJ's Dan O'Donnell report on how a local psychologist explains the way Brett Favre has opened up more men to be able to show their teary-eyed side.

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They say real men don't cry, but then again, they didn't know Brett Favre.

He broke down during his news conference and chances are a lot of men did along with him.

Acceptable? According to a local clinical psychologist: absolutely.

Since Favre made his decision, there haven't been many dry eyes in Packers Nation, with grown men from here to Green Bay breaking a long-standing societal taboo.

"Especially when they see Brett Favre himself, able to express tears," says Dr. Paul Smerz, a clinical psychologist from Milwaukee.

He states the reaction to Favre's retirement has been so strong because he's what's known in psychology as an archetype, an idealized model for male behavior who's also, paradoxically, still just a regular guy.

An emotional Brett Favre delivering the game-winning touchdown pass in the final 12 seconds of a victory over the Oakland Raiders in the 1999 season opener. | Photo: Milwaukee Journal SentinelIn other words, guys want to be like Brett.

"I think men can look up to Brett Favre as more than just a hero, but something that brings out in them certain aspects of their own self, their masculinity."

"He's someone men look up to because of his performance on the field, but they see him as being a pretty rounded, balanced kind of guy who manifests a lot of values that men aspire to," says Dr. Smerz.

Including, though they won't admit it, sensitivity.

"He doesn't fight back the tears so much, because he's, in a sense, paid his dues already. I think he feels himself so accepted by the public."

Brett's Public History of Tears

In September of 1999, the Packers opened their season against the Oakland Raiders at a time when Favre was coming to terms with an addiction to alcohol, a behavior that was nearly forcing his wife Deanna to divorce him.

While suffering from a broken thumb and the pain he was enduring as he tried to overcome his humanness, he delivered a 10-point fourth quarter comeback to defeat Oakland, 28-24, at Lambeau Field.

In the postgame press conference, Favre broke down and had to cut short his comments, simply ending with "sorry, fellas" through sobs.

Deanna and Brett Favre, following his best statistical performance against Oakland in 2003, when he overcame a broken heart caused by the death of his father 28 hours before kickoff. | Photo: Milwaukee Journal SentinelOn December 22, 2003, the Packers played a game against the Raiders on a night where Favre, perhaps more understandably than any point in his life, had reason to shed tears.

It was the night after his father Irv died in an automobile accident, and a night where Favre dedicated his game to his father, and the Packers dedicated the game to Favre.

A few hours after Irv's death, Brett shed tears in a powerful team meeting that galvanized his team's efforts, and in front of an enemy audience in Oakland, Favre produced the best statistical day of his career with 399 yards and four TD passes in a 41-7 blowout of Oakland.

Favre also thought he was ending his career on December 31, 2006 in Chicago when the Packers blew out the Chicago Bears, 26-7 at Soldier Field. He cried through a postgame interview with NBC's Andrea Kramer, realizing that could have been his last game.

It wasn't. But this week, he realized he had played his last game in the 2007 NFC Championship Game.

And now, as the public bids Favre a final farewell, even the most manly of men can't help but get emotional, and Dr. Smerz says that's perfectly natural.

"Men find it very easy to identify with a sports hero, and I think that degree of identification to them overcomes any kind of a social taboo."

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