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Local moms, wives reveal their true feelings about 'Fifty Shades of Grey'

CREATED May 14, 2012 - UPDATED: May 14, 2012

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MILWAUKEE- To give you an idea just how popular this book is:  There are more than 1500 people on the statewide e-reader waiting list.  It begs the question:  What do women really want--both in life, and in the bedroom?

What makes a relationship:  Love, sex, and power?  Or how about paddling, rope, leather, and chains?

All are topics discussed in the hottest book out there:  '50 Shades of Grey'.

So we challenged a local book club to read it, and talk candidly about the issues it addresses.

"I totally did not think it was a love story.  I just thought it was mainly lust," one member says.

Another adds, "I did find myself wanting a little more."

Finally, one woman jokes,"When I was reading it, I felt like I was back in 8th grade, under covers...like one of those Judy Blume books."

In the book, naive Ana Steele falls in love with Christian Grey--a millionaire with a penchant for domination in the bedroom.

Local relationship therapist Judy Lauwasser Bruett says she has had clients who use S and M for years, and this book just brings it to the mainstream.

"They have found it really hot and sexy, and it works, and others have proposed it and it hasn't worked," Lauwasser Bruett explains.

We had Judy sit down with the ladies, and listen to their mixed reactions.

Some ladies commented on the control factor.

"I think I would have a lot of trouble with the control and being told what to do.  I'm not good at being told what to do," one member exclaims.

"Do you trust them, your husband or partner, do you trust them that they'll do it, because you can't relinquish that control unless there's trust," another woman adds.

Others wondered whether the book could spice up sex lives.

One book club member comments, "I think sometimes women say, 'I would never do that, and I think behind closed doors, I think this book is popular because people are doing those kinds of things, they just may not talk about it or say it."

Judy explaibs, "It's an area couples don't talk about--don't talk about sex life and if it's working--the most intimate connection."

In the book Christian asks Ana to sign a lengthy relationship and sex contract...Outlining his rules and desires.  Judy points out--that's not such a bad idea!

"Often in therapy that's what we talk about--what was the unwritten contract, the unspoken contract.  And when couples come to therapy, they're really coming to renegotiate the contract."
 
Another big question:  Why is this book so popular?

"I don't know why this is so popular, I have no idea," one book club member laughs.

Another says slyly, "If you kind of look at it, it's helping stimulate the economy!"

While another woman notes, "Maybe it has more to do with timing--more to do with the fact that, where our country is..tere's probably alot of financial strife going on of families.  Just that whole being swept off your feet, being able to forget about your problems."

After all, many people feel that's what books are for, a chance to escape, and maybe learn a little about yourself in the process.

This is the first book in  a trilogy, and most of the ladies said they want to read the next one, even if they weren't crazy about '50 Shades of Grey'.

Also, the book's publisher just came out Monday against libraries banning the book--claiming the censorship violates readers' First Amendment rights.